What are your first date experiences? Did you feel stressful just to keep up with the conversations and the pressure of what to do and where to go? Or did you find your first dates pleasant and fun?
For many people, first dates can be very stressful especially so if you have not met each other before and is meeting your date for the first time. The pressure comes from not knowing the other party well and so you are afraid of saying or doing the wrong things that may annoy your date for the evening.
If that described you, hey, let your hair down and relax buddy. This is because your date may be just as tensed as you are for the same reasons and if both of you held back for fear of making mistakes, both of you will go home with nothing pretty much to talk about and the date will end up as a bad experience and even if you liked each other, there probably will not be a second date.
So take the pressure off from yourself so that you and your date can get to know each other better and making it an enjoyable experience for the both of you. Treat the date as if you are on an outing with a good old friend and do what you will do with the old friend and all the pressures will be off.
Although you can treat your date like an outing with an old friend, there is a line to be drawn on first dates. Because you are meeting this person for the first time, you may want to find out more about him or her and if too many personal questions were asked, your date may feel like you are interrogating him or her. So you should just banter about neutral subjects like talking about a movie or a book you have recently read.
This means that you should not delve too much into your date's personal life. It takes time to build friendship and bonding and if you are too nosy, you may turn your date off. So there are some taboo subjects you should avoid.
For starters, do not talk about financial matters. While you are discussing the work that you do, there is no need to talk about your investments or your financial problems. Most of all, do not discuss how much you earn or your date's salary. If you do, your date will see you as a loser either way because if you brag about how much you earn, you will be seen as being a conceited show off and if you lament about how little you earn, you will be seen as a negative low self-esteem person.
Another taboo subject you should not talk about is your previous relationships. Just put yourself into your date's shoes. What if your date goes on the whole night talking about his or her previous relationship, how will you feel then? The answer is obvious isn't it?
If your date were to ask you whether you are divorced or how long you have been single, there is nothing wrong with being honest and upfront about your status. That is just being honest and candid. However, you need not go into the details or bad mouth the person involved in your previous relationship because it will raise all kinds of red flags for your date.
So just relax, banter about some non controversial subjects such as travel experiences, hobbies and interesting current affairs besides politics and religion, your first date will certainly be a very pleasant experience.
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