Do this and don’t do that. The dating world has a sometimes unspoken set of rules that must be followed to find success in your love life. Or do they? What rules? You know there is a book about “The Rules” women should follow, but men also have some rules that can be broken. Let’s talk about breaking the rules. Let’s take a look at the times you can throw way some of the “rules” and still end up with the girl of your dreams. In fact, there are times when the rules should be broken. Here are some rules and why you should break them.
Don’t Get Serious Too Soon
One major taboo in the dating world is to lay all your cards on the table about how you feel. Even if it was a lightning bolt love at first sight encounter, you are told to never let the cat out of the bag. I disagree. I say if you are both googly eyed in love and spending every second together and you know deep in your heart it is mutual, then by all means tell her how you feel. Part of falling in love successfully is showing that you can be vulnerable.
Wait Two Days to Call
A standard rule of thumb among all the guys I know is to wait at least two days before you call a girl you just met. I say throw that rule in the trash. If you want to call her, then by all means to do. Here’s my theory on this, which has proven true over and over again: If she likes you, believe me, she is going to be ecstatic if you call her the next day to tell her you were thinking about her cute smile or her great laugh. If she doesn’t like you, you’re right, calling her the next day or later that night is going to destroy any chances you had. It’s not going to work. She’s going to be turned off and not interested by the call. But here’s the kicker – you didn’t stand a chance anyway. Better to know early on, than waste your time.
Don’t Do Dinner and a Movie on Your First Date
Even I preach this rule, but there are exceptions to every rule. I say part of this rule is right – definitely don’t go to a movie. You will have no time to get to know each other and it is a waste of time. Here’s how I think the dinner rule should be broken: Do dinner together, but not at a restaurant. DO it at her place, or preferably – yours. A really great date is to have her meet you and then go shopping together for ingredients for supper. Then take her to your place and impress her with your culinary skills. (Every single guy out there should know how to make one great dish. If you don’t, then get cracking.)
So here are a few times when it is OK to break the rules. If done correctly, you will find success in your dating life.
Friday 31 December 2010
Have a Pleasant First Date Experience
What are your first date experiences? Did you feel stressful just to keep up with the conversations and the pressure of what to do and where to go? Or did you find your first dates pleasant and fun?
For many people, first dates can be very stressful especially so if you have not met each other before and is meeting your date for the first time. The pressure comes from not knowing the other party well and so you are afraid of saying or doing the wrong things that may annoy your date for the evening.
If that described you, hey, let your hair down and relax buddy. This is because your date may be just as tensed as you are for the same reasons and if both of you held back for fear of making mistakes, both of you will go home with nothing pretty much to talk about and the date will end up as a bad experience and even if you liked each other, there probably will not be a second date.
So take the pressure off from yourself so that you and your date can get to know each other better and making it an enjoyable experience for the both of you. Treat the date as if you are on an outing with a good old friend and do what you will do with the old friend and all the pressures will be off.
Although you can treat your date like an outing with an old friend, there is a line to be drawn on first dates. Because you are meeting this person for the first time, you may want to find out more about him or her and if too many personal questions were asked, your date may feel like you are interrogating him or her. So you should just banter about neutral subjects like talking about a movie or a book you have recently read.
This means that you should not delve too much into your date's personal life. It takes time to build friendship and bonding and if you are too nosy, you may turn your date off. So there are some taboo subjects you should avoid.
For starters, do not talk about financial matters. While you are discussing the work that you do, there is no need to talk about your investments or your financial problems. Most of all, do not discuss how much you earn or your date's salary. If you do, your date will see you as a loser either way because if you brag about how much you earn, you will be seen as being a conceited show off and if you lament about how little you earn, you will be seen as a negative low self-esteem person.
Another taboo subject you should not talk about is your previous relationships. Just put yourself into your date's shoes. What if your date goes on the whole night talking about his or her previous relationship, how will you feel then? The answer is obvious isn't it?
If your date were to ask you whether you are divorced or how long you have been single, there is nothing wrong with being honest and upfront about your status. That is just being honest and candid. However, you need not go into the details or bad mouth the person involved in your previous relationship because it will raise all kinds of red flags for your date.
So just relax, banter about some non controversial subjects such as travel experiences, hobbies and interesting current affairs besides politics and religion, your first date will certainly be a very pleasant experience.
For many people, first dates can be very stressful especially so if you have not met each other before and is meeting your date for the first time. The pressure comes from not knowing the other party well and so you are afraid of saying or doing the wrong things that may annoy your date for the evening.
If that described you, hey, let your hair down and relax buddy. This is because your date may be just as tensed as you are for the same reasons and if both of you held back for fear of making mistakes, both of you will go home with nothing pretty much to talk about and the date will end up as a bad experience and even if you liked each other, there probably will not be a second date.
So take the pressure off from yourself so that you and your date can get to know each other better and making it an enjoyable experience for the both of you. Treat the date as if you are on an outing with a good old friend and do what you will do with the old friend and all the pressures will be off.
Although you can treat your date like an outing with an old friend, there is a line to be drawn on first dates. Because you are meeting this person for the first time, you may want to find out more about him or her and if too many personal questions were asked, your date may feel like you are interrogating him or her. So you should just banter about neutral subjects like talking about a movie or a book you have recently read.
This means that you should not delve too much into your date's personal life. It takes time to build friendship and bonding and if you are too nosy, you may turn your date off. So there are some taboo subjects you should avoid.
For starters, do not talk about financial matters. While you are discussing the work that you do, there is no need to talk about your investments or your financial problems. Most of all, do not discuss how much you earn or your date's salary. If you do, your date will see you as a loser either way because if you brag about how much you earn, you will be seen as being a conceited show off and if you lament about how little you earn, you will be seen as a negative low self-esteem person.
Another taboo subject you should not talk about is your previous relationships. Just put yourself into your date's shoes. What if your date goes on the whole night talking about his or her previous relationship, how will you feel then? The answer is obvious isn't it?
If your date were to ask you whether you are divorced or how long you have been single, there is nothing wrong with being honest and upfront about your status. That is just being honest and candid. However, you need not go into the details or bad mouth the person involved in your previous relationship because it will raise all kinds of red flags for your date.
So just relax, banter about some non controversial subjects such as travel experiences, hobbies and interesting current affairs besides politics and religion, your first date will certainly be a very pleasant experience.
Easy Step-By-Step Online Dating Tips
The search is over. You can’t imagine what relief these words might bring to lonely single people out there who are on the lookout for the perfect mate for them. If you want a whole new experience in the dating world, then why not try dating online site and look for some online dating tips that can help you get started in this journey.
The good thing about online dating is that you have the opportunity to regulate your meetings and communication depending on your scale of readiness. If you feel it is going too fast, then you can always defer the communication and rely on site features to excuse yourself without appearing rude. On the other hand, if you are in a hurry to find the right one, then all you have to do is to be really active in these sites, while bearing in mind some of these online dating tips:
1. Create an email specifically for your online dating activities. The purpose of this is so that any communication or feedback from your matches or from the site itself will not get mixed up with the rest of your work and personal email.
2. Look for a site that is right for you. There are free and paid websites for online dating. The beauty of free sites is that you can try and experience this for free, while going on to the next level, which is signing up for a paid website will allow you access to some of their amazing features that allows for more accurate searches and matches.
3. Sign-up on this online dating site. There is no rule that you should only sign up for one site so you can actually create an account in several different sites. Of course you would need to ensure that you are able to closely monitor each of the following accounts you have created.
4. Create and complete your profile. Your profile will be the first thing that potential mates will see, therefore you should make it appear as interesting as possible. Try to reveal some interesting facts about yourself without disclosing any crucial or sensitive issues about you.
5. Spruce up that profile with a nice picture. Choose a profile photo that shows the real you and not one that is fully covered up with make-up accessories or other phony things. Make it appear as natural as possible so you won’t appear intimidating to potential profile viewers.
6. Some sites actually allow you to write the traits you are looking for in a partner. Be specific without appearing too picky. Try to answer and complete all of the questions and surveys being asked of you.
7. Be active. This actually means two things: be active in answering queries as well as be active in using the site features. It is important that you put yourself out there once you start dating online.
Like any ordinary dating circumstances, you must allow yourself to get to know this person more before proceeding to more serious steps. Make sure that you take note of these online dating tips and you are on your way towards finding the man or woman of your dreams.
The good thing about online dating is that you have the opportunity to regulate your meetings and communication depending on your scale of readiness. If you feel it is going too fast, then you can always defer the communication and rely on site features to excuse yourself without appearing rude. On the other hand, if you are in a hurry to find the right one, then all you have to do is to be really active in these sites, while bearing in mind some of these online dating tips:
1. Create an email specifically for your online dating activities. The purpose of this is so that any communication or feedback from your matches or from the site itself will not get mixed up with the rest of your work and personal email.
2. Look for a site that is right for you. There are free and paid websites for online dating. The beauty of free sites is that you can try and experience this for free, while going on to the next level, which is signing up for a paid website will allow you access to some of their amazing features that allows for more accurate searches and matches.
3. Sign-up on this online dating site. There is no rule that you should only sign up for one site so you can actually create an account in several different sites. Of course you would need to ensure that you are able to closely monitor each of the following accounts you have created.
4. Create and complete your profile. Your profile will be the first thing that potential mates will see, therefore you should make it appear as interesting as possible. Try to reveal some interesting facts about yourself without disclosing any crucial or sensitive issues about you.
5. Spruce up that profile with a nice picture. Choose a profile photo that shows the real you and not one that is fully covered up with make-up accessories or other phony things. Make it appear as natural as possible so you won’t appear intimidating to potential profile viewers.
6. Some sites actually allow you to write the traits you are looking for in a partner. Be specific without appearing too picky. Try to answer and complete all of the questions and surveys being asked of you.
7. Be active. This actually means two things: be active in answering queries as well as be active in using the site features. It is important that you put yourself out there once you start dating online.
Like any ordinary dating circumstances, you must allow yourself to get to know this person more before proceeding to more serious steps. Make sure that you take note of these online dating tips and you are on your way towards finding the man or woman of your dreams.
What You Need to Learn to Find a Partner
You saw your best friend in high school at the mall. He introduced you to his new girl friend. You received an e-mail from the boy you used to play with when you were small. He is inviting you to his wedding. You had dinner with your officemates and you find yourself the only one without a date. What would you do? Will you just sit around and wait for someone to come and ask you for a date? This will not lead you anywhere so the best thing to do is to be active about it. Join an online dating service. If you do not know much about it yet, here are some important things that you have to learn now.
Online dating started more than a decade ago. A lot of people have joined it and many of them have successfully found their partners. These sites allow people to look for possible partners either by allowing you to access their list or database of users or by matching you with others. Matching is usually just an add on service to spice things up but it is still you who decides on who you date with.
There are sites that offer services for free. Naturally they have a lot of users because people always get attracted to anything free. However, many say that these sites are prone to scammers and people with not-so-good intentions. There are also sites that require you to pay membership fees to avail of their services. The fees are affordable so many people also join. Like the free ones, it is also possible that these sites have their own share of scammers so you really need to be careful.
There are sites that allow you to communicate with possible dates through emails. This is the most common. You can send an email to someone whose profile you like. You then wait for a reply. There are also sites that have chatting options. Many also have this because users find chatting very convenient. Response in chatting is immediate. You can at once decide whether it is a go or you need to flash the red light. A relatively new addition to the services of some sites is online calling. This means you can talk to your prospects live. This service gives users a very good way to assess their options. If there are people who frown at this additional service, these people are those who are not good conversationalists or those who are shy.
Dating online is in many ways similar to the traditional way it is done. You also need to put your best foot forward. You need to impress the other person so this is understandable, right? However, you also need to be truthful like what you do when you date in person. You cannot say lies to build yourself up just because you cannot be seen. At the end of the day your goal is to find a suitable partner so it is best to be honest from the very beginning.
If you do not want to be the only single person in your group, start doing something to find a partner now.
Online dating started more than a decade ago. A lot of people have joined it and many of them have successfully found their partners. These sites allow people to look for possible partners either by allowing you to access their list or database of users or by matching you with others. Matching is usually just an add on service to spice things up but it is still you who decides on who you date with.
There are sites that offer services for free. Naturally they have a lot of users because people always get attracted to anything free. However, many say that these sites are prone to scammers and people with not-so-good intentions. There are also sites that require you to pay membership fees to avail of their services. The fees are affordable so many people also join. Like the free ones, it is also possible that these sites have their own share of scammers so you really need to be careful.
There are sites that allow you to communicate with possible dates through emails. This is the most common. You can send an email to someone whose profile you like. You then wait for a reply. There are also sites that have chatting options. Many also have this because users find chatting very convenient. Response in chatting is immediate. You can at once decide whether it is a go or you need to flash the red light. A relatively new addition to the services of some sites is online calling. This means you can talk to your prospects live. This service gives users a very good way to assess their options. If there are people who frown at this additional service, these people are those who are not good conversationalists or those who are shy.
Dating online is in many ways similar to the traditional way it is done. You also need to put your best foot forward. You need to impress the other person so this is understandable, right? However, you also need to be truthful like what you do when you date in person. You cannot say lies to build yourself up just because you cannot be seen. At the end of the day your goal is to find a suitable partner so it is best to be honest from the very beginning.
If you do not want to be the only single person in your group, start doing something to find a partner now.
Find Your Perfect Match–Online Dating Tips
Are you a shy person? Do you cringe at the thought of dating someone you do not know? Do you feel you do not have what it takes to impress others? If you are this kind of person, finding a partner may be a bit difficult unless you are already contented with the people you see in the neighborhood or at the convenience store. If you are this type of person and you want to find a steady date then online dating maybe the solution you are looking for. You do not need to meet face-to-face right at once so you can build a good relationship first by communicating online to make you feel comfortable and at ease when the time comes for you to meet in person. Here are some online dating tips that you can consider to help you in your quest for your perfect match.
The first thing you must do is to find a good online dating site. There are so many of these dating sites on the web but not all of them will be able to give what you need. Start looking at the types of users a dating site has. You may not be able to access their list of users unless you subscribe but some post a few comments from their users. Look at these comments and the people who posted them to have some idea about the general profile of the site users. If you decide to join online dating sites that offer services for free, you will have a better chance of seeing their users and therefore have a better idea of the kinds of people you could possibly date. You can also join forums and find recommendations from people who have actually used dating sites. Once you have chosen an online dating service to subscribe to, it is time to enlist and be part of the site.
When you post your profile, do not give away too much personal information. Dating sites do not require you to write everything about you anyway so forego important personal details like your exact place of work or your exact home address. This is to protect you against people who join dating sites for bad intentions. But though you are not expected to write everything, you are expected to be honest with the things that you give. Do not say you are a doctor when in reality you are a nurse. If you do this you might have problems should the time for you to personally meet comes. You might ruin your chances of really finding the right person for you.
You might receive a lot of mails after posting your profile. You can already mark those you like and those you do not as soon as you read their posts but try not to discard contacts of those you don’t like right away. It is possible that you might be wrong with your first impression so if you decide to change your mind sometime in the future, you can still go back to your files. Also, do not be deceived by pictures posted by some users since it is possible that some of them are not their real photos.
Lastly, if you are going to meet your date in person for the first time, meet in a public place. This is for your own security.
The first thing you must do is to find a good online dating site. There are so many of these dating sites on the web but not all of them will be able to give what you need. Start looking at the types of users a dating site has. You may not be able to access their list of users unless you subscribe but some post a few comments from their users. Look at these comments and the people who posted them to have some idea about the general profile of the site users. If you decide to join online dating sites that offer services for free, you will have a better chance of seeing their users and therefore have a better idea of the kinds of people you could possibly date. You can also join forums and find recommendations from people who have actually used dating sites. Once you have chosen an online dating service to subscribe to, it is time to enlist and be part of the site.
When you post your profile, do not give away too much personal information. Dating sites do not require you to write everything about you anyway so forego important personal details like your exact place of work or your exact home address. This is to protect you against people who join dating sites for bad intentions. But though you are not expected to write everything, you are expected to be honest with the things that you give. Do not say you are a doctor when in reality you are a nurse. If you do this you might have problems should the time for you to personally meet comes. You might ruin your chances of really finding the right person for you.
You might receive a lot of mails after posting your profile. You can already mark those you like and those you do not as soon as you read their posts but try not to discard contacts of those you don’t like right away. It is possible that you might be wrong with your first impression so if you decide to change your mind sometime in the future, you can still go back to your files. Also, do not be deceived by pictures posted by some users since it is possible that some of them are not their real photos.
Lastly, if you are going to meet your date in person for the first time, meet in a public place. This is for your own security.
Things You Have to Learn– Online Dating
Are you tired of being alone? Have you been single for a long time already? Are you longing to have somebody by your side anytime you would feel lonely? If your answer to all these questions is yes, worry no more. There are a lot of ways for you to find someone to go out with. There are many ways to find a constant companion. One of these ways is to look for online dating services. There are a lot of these services being offered on the internet these days. But before you go find one, here are some important things that you have to learn.
Online dating services have been in existence for more than a decade already. At first there were just a few sites offering dating online services but through the years they have gone bigger and bigger. Its popularity was boosted when a Hollywood movie about it was released sometime in the late 90s.
Dating sites, though similar in their aim to help people find dates, are different in many ways. For one, some sites offer their services for free while others give their services for a fee. Sites with monthly fees are more common because this is business after all.
Another difference is the way they allow their users to communicate with other users. Some sites allow their users to communicate through emails. Others have chatting options. The latter is more convenient than the former because response from another user is faster. There are also some who offer online calls.
Many say dating sites became popular because of the many advantages they offer over regular or person-to-person dating. One of these advantages is the number of options you can find. Since sites have big memberships, you have more people to choose from. You are not limited to the people you meet in your neighborhood or the people you see in your office building Mondays to Fridays. These dating sites also allow shy individuals to build themselves up to possible partners first before actually meeting them. Actual dates are usually embarrassing for shy individuals. Dating online is also relatively cheaper than going on actual dates. The monthly fees charged to users are way lower than what you usually spend on a single outing.
Here are some things that you always have to put in mind when dating online. Always be honest. If your intention is to meet the person you dating online in the flesh, it is important that you tell only the truth. However, this does not mean that you will tell everything. There are things that you have to keep to yourself. This is withholding information for the time being and not lying. In the same light, do not also expect that the other person will tell you everything. Also, do not be pushy. You cannot make people do the things they do not like to do. Treat people who will send you messages with respect. Do not be rude to them in any way. Even if you do not like the person from the very beginning, it is not reason for you to be disrespectful.
With all these information about dating online, you should now be ready to have your constant companion and be single no more.
Online dating services have been in existence for more than a decade already. At first there were just a few sites offering dating online services but through the years they have gone bigger and bigger. Its popularity was boosted when a Hollywood movie about it was released sometime in the late 90s.
Dating sites, though similar in their aim to help people find dates, are different in many ways. For one, some sites offer their services for free while others give their services for a fee. Sites with monthly fees are more common because this is business after all.
Another difference is the way they allow their users to communicate with other users. Some sites allow their users to communicate through emails. Others have chatting options. The latter is more convenient than the former because response from another user is faster. There are also some who offer online calls.
Many say dating sites became popular because of the many advantages they offer over regular or person-to-person dating. One of these advantages is the number of options you can find. Since sites have big memberships, you have more people to choose from. You are not limited to the people you meet in your neighborhood or the people you see in your office building Mondays to Fridays. These dating sites also allow shy individuals to build themselves up to possible partners first before actually meeting them. Actual dates are usually embarrassing for shy individuals. Dating online is also relatively cheaper than going on actual dates. The monthly fees charged to users are way lower than what you usually spend on a single outing.
Here are some things that you always have to put in mind when dating online. Always be honest. If your intention is to meet the person you dating online in the flesh, it is important that you tell only the truth. However, this does not mean that you will tell everything. There are things that you have to keep to yourself. This is withholding information for the time being and not lying. In the same light, do not also expect that the other person will tell you everything. Also, do not be pushy. You cannot make people do the things they do not like to do. Treat people who will send you messages with respect. Do not be rude to them in any way. Even if you do not like the person from the very beginning, it is not reason for you to be disrespectful.
With all these information about dating online, you should now be ready to have your constant companion and be single no more.
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